You’re either arguing for something or against something. That is quite clear.
Ryan, what are you talking about?
I’m talking about your desire to make changes, and taking the necessary steps to accomplish your goals. Whether you’re trying to get out of pain, lose weight, build a business or just be better at something, you’re actually consciously or unconsciously arguing for something.
We see this in our initial assessments with clients looking to make a change in their pain or performance. Their either in a stage of contemplation where they realize there is a change that can be made or their in a planning stage preparing to take action because the pain or problem is too great to NOT make a change.
Being in contemplation is usually being ambivalent. For changes to stick, ambivalence is not a healthy state to be in. The idea of making changes is appealing, but the desire to actually do the work isn’t very high. This is generally because there hasn’t been enough time spent in contemplation or just isn’t truly ready to make changes.
The motivation isn’t high enough to make a change.
The magic happens in the planning stage, where the desire is great and the need to make changes is apparent. This is the stage we love to work with people in because they are arguing for the need to change. Compliance with recommended suggestions is high and the results are really great.
Their motivation is very high to make a change.
The difference in readiness for change can be heard in the language being used. For example, someone that comes in looking to get out of pain, that is currently in contemplation may say things like:
“I’d like to get out of pain” or “It’d be nice to be able to ______.”
You see there isn’t much sense of urgency to handle the problem therefore the priority of fixing the issue isn’t great.
Now let’s look at the same person who is ready to make a change. They may say something like:
“I can’t continue being in this pain” or “I need to be able to _______ again.”
There is a strong emotion and connection to regaining something they’ve lost. That is powerful medicine for change.
As you look at the areas of life you’d like to make changes in, where are you being ambivalent and where are you being sure? I can almost guarantee the areas that you’re being hesitant, are the same areas that you aren’t getting the results you’d like. Maybe you just aren’t ready, maybe you haven’t found downside of not making that change. Either way, it’s ok as long as you understand why.
So, what are you arguing for? Or not arguing for?